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The DLJ Goes Dark

11-26-06 3:45 A GMT-07

This will be my last post here at the DLJ blog. My decision to discontinue posting here is actually far more positive than it may seem. That’s because my current situation will allow me to focus on the thing that got me into activism and publishing the DLJ in the first place.

There are others who are quite ably covering the issues, such as Teri Stoddard, Wendy McElroy, and of course, Men’s News Daily and Mensactivism

The hundreds of good people all over the world I’ve met in the years since the DLJ was first launched (in 2001 as an e-mailed newsletter) have all taught me a lot, and given me the tools which I can use to effectively run a program that provides practical help for a group of people that sorely need it.

There are far too many of those who’ve helped along the way to list by name but my gratitude for each and every one of you is boundless.

I will be focusing my efforts on setting up a program for abused men in my local area of Yuma, Arizona. Under the auspices of the Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men and Women, I will establish first an online presence, (at least part of that will be a blog here at Blog-City)  and then an in-person peer counseling group. We’ll see where it goes from there.

Otherwise, about six weeks ago, I launched a blog on cooking, the Elementary Chef, and just yesterday was asked to contribute material to Dean’s World, which is much more widely-read than the DLJ ever was. On Dean’s World I’ll be chronicling my efforts to get my abused men’s program up and running, as well as other things that present themselves.

Happy trails!

Renew! Redocorate! Rework!

08-16-06 9:12 A GMT-07

I've got a couple of book projects that need finishing, one of which is a resource manual for DAHM.  As you know, things are changing rapidly, as evidenced by these stories:

Wife charged with murder

Wife of former Seahawk Chad Eaton arrested

I'm also going to be doing some re-working of the blog, as Blog City has upgraded to a new version.

I have to say something here…

08-11-06 11:59 P GMT-07

There is yet another hunger strike by a disenfranchised father going on. I have been asked to support this action, and have ignored all requests.

That’s because this particular strategy has been proven wrong, not only by many good Irishmen in 1981 who might now be more concerned with the antics of their grandchildren had they lived. Also by a disenfranchised father I knew for some time.

His name was Len Miskulin. You will not remember him, since his work and his quest was to no avail. All that happened with Len was that he lost his kids, and lost his health.

He hung on for some 53 days, if memory serves. He had some publicity for a time, since he was the first; at least in the UK. He came out of it so damaged he told me if he’d known how bad it was he’d try something else.

It’s been about five years, and I’ve lost track, but if I could find him and drag Len here to the US, I’m sure he’d tell anyone trying this radical stunt to STOP!!!

Today there are far more effective ways to influence public opinion. On a personal level, the reality is that this kind of stunt only causes harm. You might get a couple of media mentions, but the truth is nobody today wants to hear about divorced men acting so irresponsibly they can’t even consider their own health.

That’s the way it plays.

Why on Earth would any court want to allow a man with so little concern for life to be the custodian of his children?

How does this make any sense???

It really doesn’t.

I know I got a lot of extremely angry and barely coherent e-mails from a guy. I remember asking a perfectly civil question, and he came back with nonsense. I was supposed to buy his full package without question.

Gentlemen, there are so many fucking loose cannons in this movement I despair of ever being able to make positive gain.

Now there are claimed anti-feminists supporting insanity, I have no idea what to think.

The mothers and wives of the 1981 Irish protestors had no benefits. Nowt but the body comin out after death.

Dave Winer is Right About Sexism

08-11-06 2:43 A GMT-07

Like a lot of other things, he's right about this, too.

Maybe I assign too much wonderfulness to this guy, but he was my blogfather in actuality. One day in early 2003, a media newsletter I got had a reference to Scripting News. Being a non-programmer myself, i wondered why it was this kind of deep geek lore merited a place among media references.

So I went, and read, and drank that particular Kool-aid. I've been a blogger ever since.

Entirely separate from anything Dave has ever done, I used my blog to work for men's rights, father's rights, and the most important : unserved victims of domestic violence. These were things I'd already been working on. I just used the blog to go further.

Even though we've exchanged a few e-mails over time, he still isn't quite sure who I am. That's OK, I really can't expect somebody who likely gets hundreds of real e-mails every day to focus on one quirky lady.

Yesterday he said this:

Men know what we have to do, we've had it drilled into us for at least a generation. But there's a long to-do-list for women, and because men have been forced into silence on this subject, that list hasn't had a chance to develop. Liz, it's time to bend over backwards to create safety for men to speak on this subject. Many of your colleagues are already doing this. There are still a few standouts, and you are one of them. No more gender-bashing, lecturing and name-calling, and no more tolerance for that. I will consider what you have said. Now it would be great if you would do the same.

The man understands the ideals of equality, and expects women to do the same. He is far more diplomatic and decent than I would be in the same situation.

As a woman of education and influence, I feel diminished and insulted by events such as BlogHer, because that is precisely what they are designed to do. They have been created in order to congregate angry women who feel the rules of society don't apply to them, add fuel to their discomfiture, and eventually verify their paranoid fears of an oppressive patriarchy.

They are certainly divisive. Feminism has always been about division, and disdain for those who will not believe. I wish those otherwise-intelligent, and decent women who have bought that mess of pottage that feminism really is would recognize that it's time to stop hating, time to stop blaming, and most important : time to stop setting women up as any kind of special class of anything!

...and let the rest of us live our lives with our men in peace.

There's a quite easy test to apply: if you think something said about a man is funny, try replacing a woman in there. If you think it's hateful when applied to a woman -- bingo! It's sexist.

I'm old enough to know that there are far more bad, hateful things being said about men today then there ever were said about women in the last forty years.

Nobody has any right to diss an entire class of people. Nor to make any presumptions about them.

I thank God that Dave Winer had the cojones to bring it up.

Storyblogging Carnival Needs Help

08-11-06 1:42 A GMT-07

Doc Rampage reports that only one entry was sent this time. That's not nearly enough! c'mon, kids, put on your writing boots and compose!

Remember, a short story can be as little as 500 words. That's called flash fiction. Everything does NOT hafta be a 30,000 word Heinlein piece.

Send here;

Dave Gudeman
http://docrampage.blogspot.com/

 

Category: Writing

Immigration - what's the real issue?

posted 03-31-06

The other night I was answering an e-mail from my friend and fellow observer of our society, Dean Esmay, when I started to hear some sirens. Where I live, when you hear even one siren you run outside to see what’s going on.

One siren followed another, until it came clear that something serious was happening on the border, about a mile from my house. It wasn’t just Border Patrol down there; it was the county sheriff’s department and ambulances. As I remarked to Dean, there weren’t any shots fired, or I would’ve heard that.

There really wasn’t any way to find out what was going on, short of going down the road and waking up my neighbor, who has a police scanner, or getting in the car and going right to the scene. I didn’t want to put myself in the way of the authorities doing their jobs or in a potentially dangerous situation, so I finished writing the e-mail and went to bed.

As it turned out, the next evening when I saw the local news, I found what happened. A pickup truck carrying 17 illegals got stuck while the driver attempted to jump the canal that goes parallel to the river. Night-vision cameras placed at the border caught the action.

This was one of those dumb-and-dumber situations, but it could’ve been something worse. We’ve had a number of incidents and skirmishes along the border lately. A couple of times they’ve involved (or alleged to have involved) Mexican federales. In one case, it was determined that a Mexican government helicopter invaded US airspace.

To those who are at a comfortable distance – hundreds or even thousands of miles from this border, these kinds of things may seem insignificant or even comical. Living in Arizona, right in the thick if it, it’s neither of those things, and has become downright unsettling.

I haven’t written anything much about the immigration issue, because the way it’s drawn as far as the proposed law goes is so complex. At the same time so many conflicting opinions don’t really seem to address even part of the real issue. I’ve hardly known what to say. Seeing the reports of the high school kids marching in protest gave me a lot more things to wonder about, because it didn’t seem that even our local news guys had a handle on the issue. It was like they were, either unwittingly or deliberately leaving some things out.

Earlier tonight I saw this commentary by Danah Boyd, which more than anything else, demonstrates how far removed most people are from the actual issue. So far removed, in my opinion, that they’re not talking about the real issue anymore. Whether kids should be allowed to skip school and go out demonstrating is neither here nor there.

Did anybody but me pay attention (or get to hear) to what individual kids were saying? The several quotes I heard from kids at local demonstrations were disturbing and worrisome. The only message I got was some sort of vague notion that anybody should be allowed to come into the United States and ignore any laws they chose. That, and an equally vague notion that Mexican nationals were somehow being “oppressed” by being expected to behave in any kind of proscribed manner. In short, because they are Mexicans, they don’t want American laws to apply to them.

I haven’t seen one quote from a demonstrator that clearly articulated even a grasp of what that law is about. Even more disturbing was the fact that at least two local demonstrators were known to be on probation. These kids weren’t from the Student Council and the Science Club, to be sure.

People can go on and on about freedom of speech and the courage to speak out, etcetera, but these demonstrations are not about the effect a new immigration law would have on the country. If anyone involved had been serious about expressing an honest desire to protest the law, they would not have used Mexican flags to express their disagreement. They would also have taken the time to learn the details.

No new law is going to affect those who choose to ignore it, in any case. Illegal aliens ignore the law by the thousands every day; why would that change?

No, what’s happening is something else entirely. I saw the word at Michelle Malkin’s blog the other day. That word is reconquista. She also mentions “radical ethnic separatism,” which has been going on for years here in Arizona.

Here’s the way it is:

There’s a clear rift between Mexican nationals living here, and naturalized Americans of Mexican heritage. There have been gang wars in the larger cities in border states based on nothing more than that.

In some fields, such as social services and those dealing with a broad segment of the public, it is impossible for anyone who is not bilingual to get a job. In other fields such as retail and agriculture, English is optional. Almost everyone I know has a story of going into a store and not being able to communicate with Spanish-speaking staff. In one small town on the border, I hear the mayor herself speaks no English.

In some places, if you didn’t know better, you’d swear you were already in Mexico, since all the signs on stores are in Spanish, and everyone speaks Spanish. 

I can see just from living here, there is a growing number of people who have an actual hatred for Americans and things American. They don’t want to become citizens, and certainly will never try to assimilate into American culture. These are the people I worry about.

I wonder what’s going to happen this summer, as those kids who are having so much fun demonstrating now, are finding themselves with time on their hands. It doesn’t take much for a peaceful demonstration to turn into an angry mob. I remember the ‘60s.

I also remember the Detroit riots, the Watts riots, and how little it took to set them off. I am very much concerned that we may be in for another “long hot summer” as they used to say.

Yuma has been relatively peaceful, but there are other areas along the border that have been dangerous places to be. Even Tucson is seeing an upturn in the number of home burglaries, as it’s a straight shot from Nogales along I-19.

The issue isn’t about immigration at all. It’s about a culture war turning vicious.

 Update: more from michelle malkin here

Update II: Rand Simberg points out news of a Mexican flag burning near Tucson. Even more at GatewayPundit, euphoricreality, and Shot in the dark. Don't miss their comments sections!

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