HOW CAN WE COACH LITTLE GIRLS INTO WOMEN WHO AREN’T MALE VILIFYING ABUSERS?
I was walking through the park today on my way to pick up my car from the mechanic. It’s about a mile, and the mechanic is in a rather “industrial” part of town so I dressed in blue jeans and a denim shirt so I would be less likely to get mugged. I walked by the new gymnasium the City of Los Angeles is building and noticed that somebody had torched the place, since the last time I was in the park about a week ago. As I got to the jogging track I noticed hundreds of elementary school kids playing soccer on the big field, while their parents looked on. One Mom gave me a rather disapproving glance as I walked by. I guess I wasn’t properly attired to be walking on the jogging track in her book, or maybe she’s just learned from the gender feminist influence in our society to look at all men as potential rapists and child molesters.
I walked on and saw three Dads leaning against a tree watching over their kids, and a second later I just busted out laughing. No, the Dads or kids hadn’t done anything funny. I was just thinking about that Family Violence Prevention Fund’s mentoring program where men are encouraged to Coach Boys into Men. It sounds like a really good program initially, until we see that women are doing nothing to coach little girls into women who don’t batter men.
Here are a few select quotes from their website:
“Boys need your advice on how to behave toward girls. Boys are watching how you and other men relate to women to figure out their own stance towards girls. So teach boys early, and teach them often, that there is no place for violence in a relationship.”
“A kid will never approach you and ask for guidance on how to treat women. But that doesn’t mean he doesn’t need it.”
“Hear what he has to say. Listen to how he and his friends talk about girls. Ask him if he’s ever seen abusive behavior in his friends.”
“Let him know how you define a healthy relationship and always treat women and girls in a way that your son can admire.”
“Show him how important the issue of violence against women and children is to you.”
The thought that had run through my head that caused me to erupt in spontaneous hilarity was, “How can we coach little girls into women who aren‘t male vilifying, gender feminist abusers?” “Now that,“ I said to myself, “is a real $64,000.00 question.“
Yes, there certainly is a need for that, but unfortunately there aren’t any Men’s Studies programs on college campuses to alert people to the need to fix that and other perceived problems with females, and there are almost no Men’s Commissions * to lobby for money to help men who have been hurt by misandrist, gender feminist movements plaguing our society, and there aren’t any taxpayer subsidized programs run by males to encourage women to mentor little girls into women who don’t vilify, abuse, batter, exploit, or defraud males.
A couple of blocks later I walked by an elementary school, and was tempted to look at the little kids playing in the school yard, but kept my eyes looking straight ahead. After-all, I wouldn’t want to be mistaken for a potential child molester. Sadly, I recalled a time in my life when a man could enjoy watching little kids play without that worry; a time before gender feminism had so poisoned society to look at all men as “criminals waiting to happen.”
Yes, we certainly need to raise the next generation of girls not to be gender feminists. Perhaps, after we get the Violence Against Men Act passed, and get mentoring programs started for girls, we can even have some bumper stickers made up that say, “There’s No Excuse for Vilifying Males.” It’s gong to be quite a challenge to get girls to consider other opinions besides the gender feminist viewpoint once they get into college and start getting indoctrinated in women’s studies classes. It’s just so much easier for those "females" to state their opinions as fact without having truth interfere with perceptions, and it’s just so much easier to get together with a group of other "females" and present the consensus of the group as a scholarly researched study, than it is to do the real research and fact finding.
Women need to help "girls" do the hard work of scholarly research, and fact finding if we are ever going to put an end to the abusive way gender feminists treat males. If girls and boys, and men and women are ever to have equitable relations in our society, certainly gender feminists must begin to be honest about all forms of violence and the role(s) that females as well as males play in it. As a man, who was once put on crutches by the out of control raging violence of an abusive woman, I’m asking, “What can women do to stop female violence and abuse of males?” God help us if we do not break the cycle of gender feminist Ms-information that is fueling the epidemic of abuse all males are facing today.
* There is one Men’s Commission currently operating in New Hampshire.